Reblogged from congalineofdurin
had to shut a bitch down today
Seven Reasons You’re Wrong
This looks fake. It looks very, very fake. I have no way of knowing that it’s fake, but it looks fake. I’m assuming it’s fake in the absence of any reason not to, as anyone should when they see some easily-shoppable convo snippets with any possible verifying information conveniently blocked out.
I’m assuming it’s fake also because it slots so perfectly into a certain sort of girl’s counter-argument to an argument that no one ever actually makes. That’s my first observation.
Everything after this entertains the unlikely suggestion that it might be real.
As a girl, you would have no way of knowing this, but there is a lot of cultural pressure on guys to approach women. It’s a big deal. If you’re a guy living in this society, you instinctively understand that if you don’t make a move on a girl you like, nothing’s going to happen.
We can pretend, if you like, that you’re not “one of those girls” and you approach guys you like and so on, and you’ll be wrong.
The guy has to approach the girl every fucking time and take the risk that she’ll think he’s creepy and it’s a huge mess and if you’re a guy it’s just awful. A total fucking nightmare. And people like you are making it harder.
It’s deeply possible this guy has some sort of social issue which make it difficult for him to express himself properly.These same issues can sometimes mean he finds it difficult to read the obvious (to you!) signs of not-interested.
When he thinks he’s interested in a girl, or that he’d like to date her, it’s because he really likes her, and that might come out in weird ways if he’s not socially fluent. This is not altogether uncommon and I’m surprised it didn’t occur to you.
Punishing people for having behavioural disorders or for not being socially fluent seems churlish.
Yes, it’s shit when girls find a guy’s magical fantasy of a girl is projected onto them, but we all do that every day to everyone we deal with. We relate to one another in a matrix of references and opinions and ideas, some of which will directly refer to fictional works.
Some girls seem to cast the men they’re interested in as a knight in shining armour, or their caretaker. I don’t mind that, and it’s easy enough to disabuse someone of those notions in the first flush of a relationship.
You seem to be annoyed that some friend of yours and his hooked him up with a way to contact you. If no one ever did this, how the hell would anyone ever contact anyone (see .2. above)?
You took a screenshot of this interaction and and posted it on the internet calling him a “bitch” to show what a badass you are. You couldn’t just be a badass. You had to make sure everyone saw it. You think you’re some sort of crusader against creepy-rapey guys, but you’re not.
You’re not a badass. You’re not a crusader. You’re just a girl who didn’t like this guy and think you deserve praise for smacking him down. Do not think you’re anything more.
The true test of whether or not this guy’s behaviour was unacceptable: if this interaction happened with a guy that you were interested in and wanted a relationship with, you wouldn’t think it’s creepy at all. You would be telling this story to your grandchildren with pride and giggles and loving glances exchanged.
You know I’m right.
This implies that the problem is not necessarily with what this guy did, but inside your mind. Which is fair enough, but again it seems churlish to make a big deal about it.
1. Why didn’t you just tell him as soon as you knew you weren’t interested (which we can only assume was almost immediately) instead of engaging with him in a manner which could be translated as expressing an interest in further interactions?
2. Why didn’t you block him as soon as? Problem ends immediately. The Facebook block function is easy to use and is more or less waterproof. I’ve never had any trouble with it, and I’ve blocked literally hundreds of people whose bullshit I don’t have to see ever again.